From experience, I know that most of the families that have children for the first time go through this (Of course there are exceptions and I know them well) anyway it never hurts to read these tips that are super valuable for the Man of the house to participate hands-on bedtime.
If you are an advocate of Attachment Parenting, you know that they recommend the Balance and with this it refers to EVERYTHING among some important points, caring for baby, caring for the partner, self-care. So in this, it is super important to achieve balance and share responsibilities and not because dad goes to work all day the care of the baby must be exclusive to the mother.Let me begin:
Breastfeeding is an exclusive activity of the mother but the father can participate in this, helping the mother by carrying the baby, changing the diaper before or after being breastfed and putting him to sleep.
When a mother is extremely exhausted, an essential recommendation is the use of a breast pump so the father can administer the milk during the night that way the mother can sleep more. It is notorious that the mother will have excess milk but an hour or two more of continuous sleep will make a difference! (If you don't know what to do but are interested, contact me firstname.lastname@example.org ) . If the baby is formula-fed then there is not any excuses.
My GOLDEN tip is to take turns at night to put the little ones to bed, that means freedom to sleep early, take a bath, read, relax or why not watch a movie!
Do not criticize or point out what your partner is doing, this can result in a lack of security and disinterest since everything that Dad does is wrong. Be Careful this always happens when we are overtired and in a bad mood. Dad has another way of being and we must give him the opportunity.
Worry about the bonding between the father and the children, integrating them into activities and especially in the Bedtime Routine generate an incomparable bond, trust and security. (I remember that my dad told me stories every night and I loved it) It also serves as a relaxing time for everyone and "free" time for mom.