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From experience, I know that most of the families that have children for the first time go through this (Of course there are exceptions and I know them well) anyway it never hurts to read these tips that are super valuable for the Man of the house to participate hands-on bedtime.
If you are an advocate of Attachment Parenting, you know that they recommend the Balance and with this it refers to EVERYTHING among some important points, caring for baby, caring for the partner, self-care. So in this, it is super important to achieve balance and share responsibilities and not because dad goes to work all day the care of the baby must be exclusive to the mother.Let me begin:
Breastfeeding is an exclusive activity of the mother but the father can participate in this, helping the mother by carrying the baby, changing the diaper before or after being breastfed and putting him to sleep.
When a mother is extremely exhausted, an essential recommendation is the use of a breast pump so the father can administer the milk during the night that way the mother can sleep more. It is notorious that the mother will have excess milk but an hour or two more of continuous sleep will make a difference! (If you don't know what to do but are interested, contact me email@example.com ) . If the baby is formula-fed then there is not any excuses.
My GOLDEN tip is to take turns at night to put the little ones to bed, that means freedom to sleep early, take a bath, read, relax or why not watch a movie!
Do not criticize or point out what your partner is doing, this can result in a lack of security and disinterest since everything that Dad does is wrong. Be Careful this always happens when we are overtired and in a bad mood. Dad has another way of being and we must give him the opportunity.
Worry about the bonding between the father and the children, integrating them into activities and especially in the Bedtime Routine generate an incomparable bond, trust and security. (I remember that my dad told me stories every night and I loved it) It also serves as a relaxing time for everyone and "free" time for mom.
A very frequent question is to know if the Pacifier is Good or Bad for the baby to Sleep with.
The definition of Pacifier is Artificial nipple made of plastic that serves to calm the baby by triggering the action of sucking.
Prevents SIDS. Due to the constant suction of the baby the respiratory system keeps working at 100%.
It helps to prevent the baby/child from crying for no reason for a long time, keeping them quiet and peaceful.
It helps the baby/child fall asleep. Since it is a natural reflex it helps the self-soothing.
It is very cute to see a baby/child with your pacifier, many mothers enjoy collecting them.
Prevents a baby from entering a deep state of sleep. Due to the constant action of sucking each that stops (because he is falling asleep) and the baby feels that the pacifier falls off he wakes up.
If using a pacifier becomes a dependency for the baby/child and will need it all the time, including each time it falls off at night. This is when he begins to wake up every hour and if he is small he will cry so that you go to give him it.
Dentists say that it is bad, it distorts teeth and causes speech problems, however, they cannot verify why some people have perfect teeth when they are adults. (I'm an example, used a pacifier until I was about 7 years old and I do not have any speech problems, deformation of the teeth or palate).
If your baby uses a pacifier you won't know how to stop it and it will take you long to decide.
Advice on the Pacifier:
Decide for yourself if you want your baby to use a pacifier or not, do not be influenced by other people, the pacifier is not necessary, but it will make your life easier by entertaining your baby.
To remove it you just have to decide it.
Do not be dependent of the pacifier more than the baby, usually happens!
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1. Revise her bed time routine, 7:30-8:00 could be a bit too late for her sleep cycle to be already pass, try moving it a bit earlier by 15-30 minutes earlier, and try this for a week.
2. The strategy of sitting next to her is good, however you should try to avoid the contact o keep it to a minimum.
3. Your Bed-time routine should be short max 30 minutes.
4. Wait a few minutes (10mins ideal) before attending, sometimes we are so scared of letting them make some noise with the fear of waking up the siblings but by giving time we give them the chance to resettle again. If there is not chance there is not attempt.
And yes it is possible that in the beginning the brother will wake up but in not more than 3 nights both will be used to, one to keep sleeping through the noise and the other one to resettle.
If you don’t feel like testing your luck, then move the good sleeper baby to your bedroom in a portable cot for a short period of time and start the strategy! 3+ nights of hard work on the same method will be great to see changes.
5. Do not bring her to your bed, children love the company of an adult and will develop the habit of crying every night to get moved into the parent’s bed. Do it one more night and once you are ready talk to her about that won’t be more visits to the bed and explain that she will need to resettle in her own cot.
6. Once you’re are 100% convinced that is the time to start. Begin to apply the tips 1-5 and do not mover into your bed again. Hard Work? Yes but no more than what you do now and the good thing is that this will have positive results and more happy long nights. Give it a go for a least 1 full week (5-7days) and then decide if works or not.
Hello! Surely it has crossed your mind "Is my child having night terrors?" This when your child suddenly wakes up and screams, when he wakes up crying desperately and especially when they still do not speak it is very difficult to decipher it. People who have never experienced or heard the term can not even know what a Night Terror is about.
This is the definition: Night terror, also known as sleep terror, is a sleep disorder, causing feelings of terror or dread, and typically occurs during the first hours of stage 3–4 non-rapid eye movement (NREM) sleep. Sleep terrors begin in children between the ages of 3 and 12, and usually, stop during adolescence.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Night_terror
Here 6 normal behaviours that discard the night terrors.
When your baby wakes up, stand up and calls you, crying or screaming for you.
When your child gets out of bed and comes to your bed during the night, saying he is afraid.
When your child calls you from his room because he has a nightmare or is afraid of the monster that is "over there"
When your child/baby does not want to lie down in bed alone and wants your company.
When your child /baby screams loudly once and goes back to sleep.
When your baby wakes up during the night and does not go back to sleep fast.
As you see this list of behaviours are "normal in infants and young children" what you have to do in this case is to introduce good habits at bedtime. Contact me for your initial advice WhatsApp +61409622424 (Put your name and city in your message).
The Following three tips are perfect to know if now is the right time to swap your baby’s cot for a little bed, you will find how and when is this change ideal, every week mother around the world ask me this question.
1. If you baby is younger than 3 years of age, it is recommendable to keep it in a cot, and you may wonder why, this is because him/her has not 100% perception of the space and place while sleeping. You can evaluate this by observing your child whether he/her still rolling all over or waking up in the opposite direction. I can warranty you that by the age of try a kid is more likely to enjoy a single bed.
2. If your child is sleeping all night without waking then is a good time to make this transition. If your kid is still waking through the night and you think this change will be the fix, you may be lucky and it is possible that happens but by my experience as sleep consultant the cases of this being a fix to sleeping problems are rare.
3. Take ownership of the new bed! Before you make the change of the cot to a bed, make sure your child fully recognizes and knows the new sleeping place like “hi/her bed”. Speak about the change and make it memorable for them.
Human sleep is coordinated by the build-up of sleep need (tiredness) over time, and the circadian rhythm. The circadian rhythm is your internal biological clock; it controls the timing of many events in your baby’s body, including your baby’s biological bedtime and biological wake time.
The Myth: Putting your baby down early may backfire and doing a sleep intervention past a certain time in the morning may be pointless.
It’s really important to understand how the circadian rhythm works in order to make sure that you are asking your baby to sleep when he/she is capable of sleeping.
A circadian rhythm promote waking up so early due to the light exposure. Our circadian rhythms reset to light exposure, and we are particularly sensitive to light in the morning, just a tiny change in the lighting in your baby’s room may lead to a ‘locked-in’ early waking. By making the room dark today won’t mean tomorrow your baby will wake up later straight away, but in a few days you will see improvement.
It is important that you know that there are other issues related to Early Morning Wake-ups sometimes you baby has had 8, 9 or 10 hours of sleep, then his/her sleep drive will be restored and won’t feel the same pressure to sleep longer, also sleep is very light in the early morning hours, so it’s easy to wake up to a very soft noise or due to a little tummy rumble or wet diaper. All of these things can prevent your baby from sleeping in later even when he/she has the circadian ability to sleep later.
Now if Early Morning Wakeups is not the only issue, then is time to revise the routine, schedules and changes to implement www.zzleepmybaby.com can help.
For many parents with young children, this likely means waking up calls as their children rise with the sun. Yes I’m afraid to say that my experience every year I get to work with many families going through this phase of early wakings.
Happens to Everyone!
Last week going to the Gym around 5:30 am I got surprised on the side of my driveway by a Dad carrying his baby.
This is an effect that we Australians experience as the sun rises very early! Yes before 5:00 am and of course the young children with general good sleep habits are very set to the circadian rhythms dictated by the day and night. So if you wonder what can be done to avoid this? I have couple of suggestions to try:
1.Is go to bed early and follow the circadian rhythms: this means go to bed as soon is getting dark and rise with the sun, plenty of things to do like a fresh walk, enjoy a coffee. This advice is the most recommendable as you will get a lot of sleep and also you will be ready when your child is up and running.
2.Make the room of your child very very dark and I don’t allow to say is not possible! Everything is possible if you want to do it: you can get dark and thick curtains (blackouts), get a piece of dark fabric, dark paper anyway If you wish to rest for longer you can find the way.
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It is important to mention that this suggestions will work when the child is a good sleeper with no recurrent problems at night, when this early wakings are like the top of the cherry then you should be looking in to fix the core and root of the problem in order to achieve more hours sleep independently of the waking up time.
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Classes are suitable for 0-3-year-old and also Pregnant women can attend, depending on the age of your baby will determine how physically involved they will be in the class.
For the young babies, the classes are there to demonstrate to parents how to use baby sign language with your baby and to also get you comfortable with using baby sign language. Is never too early to begin the communication with a baby, has been demonstrated that baby can sign from 6-9 months of age.
Benefits of Baby Signing:
It will help you increase your signing vocabulary, reduces frustration and the more the signing becomes part of your routines, the more consistent you will be and the quicker your baby will begin to understand what it is you are trying to communicate.
Signing to a Baby won’t slow the speaking stage in your child, instead will give more tools and vocabulary.
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Manage the situation if they wake up:
“If a baby has been nursed or rocked to sleep at bedtime since birth, it's not surprising that they wouldn't know how to fall asleep independently. The good news is that many babies can figure out how to get back to sleep within just a few minutes of waking up in the night! If your child continues to fuss or cry for more than a few minutes, you'll want to go in and offer some comfort, but it's important to let your child do the work of falling back to sleep. You can speak softly to your child and do some gentle rubbing or patting, but you should avoid picking your child up and rocking or nursing back to sleep.”
By teaching your child to fall back to sleep on their own, you can better set them up for an ongoing, healthy sleep schedule”
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In this basic time line you can learn the best and recommended times for your child to have a nap, eat and go to bed . This time line will be changing as your child grows and the naps suddenly will be reduce until they end n just one NAP at mid day (around 12-15 months).
Also bare in mind that the newborns have feeding times during the night, but essentially by 6 months you want to achieve a routine similar to this time line.
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Is your kid an early riser?
It has been proven by any of us that here in Australia many Kids become an early riser as summer days hit this side of the hemisphere and you wonder why this happens. Some regions understand and have accepted and every summer they change the clock to summertime, this helps to make use the daylight more efficiently and if you think it is logic in sense of sleep.
Our bodies follow circadian rhythms and are just logical that when the body receives some sort of light since noise and change of temperature it feels like waking time. This especially for younger kids and babies.
So here are some tips to make easy those early waking times.
· Move bedtime earlier 15-30 minutes
· Make sure the windows or room remains dark as possible in the morning
· Hot? make sure the room is ventilated
· If you hear a call in the morning before a reasonable waking time, wait a few minutes before responding.
· If you have a kid under 3-keep it in the cot-wait the longest possible, he/she may resettle without help (make sure room is dark) If there is a window and they can see daylight is more likely they don’t want to sleep back.
· If you have a kid sleeping in a bed- reward to staying bed until the desired time
· Place a digital clock and teach the number to recognize, so that means is time to get up.
· If still dark and he is waking up, after waiting: go to room explain that is not the time to get up and try to resettle.
· If none of the above work for you-then is time to reinstate a mid-day NAP
If you have any questions or need a hand for any of these situations, please call or email always happy to help.
Direct Approach: “Crying out Method"
They majority of mums have a fear of sleep training with the help of a Sleep consultant, they fear the crying out method. This method is NOT used by Zzleep my baby, however I will explain the science behind it.
In the Sleep Consultant circle this method is known by the “extinction” and is based on Ignoring the cry or call of your baby this is the most difficult for parents and especially for the mum if she still breast feeding, as she won’t know with certainty if the baby is hungry.
When this method is applied the crying in a baby will increase, and if is the technique chosen by the family is necessary to have an action plan and routine in place for the consistency and effectiveness.
Surveys have demonstrated that lots of families still using this approach due to advise by other parents or as the last resort, especially when they don’t know about the existence of the professionals in the field, Zzleep my baby can help you with gentle techniques for the baby and the mother.
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- Establish a regular sleep time for your baby.
- Create a consistent, enjoyable and short bed routine.
- Avoid feeding your baby to sleep. If necessary feed him earlier.
- Put your baby to bed drowsy but awake, this will encourage him to fall asleep independently. A baby that can self-soothe to sleep at bed time, will be able to do it at any time during the night.
Mus that follow routines will be able to enjoy a more predictable and balanced life style.
Step 1: Choose an early bedtime.
The best time to put your baby or toddler to bed is sometime between 6 and 8 o'clock in the evening. This ensures that your child will
be able to get solid 11-13 hours of sleep during the night. (And yes... that is how much sleep children should be getting every night
up until the age of about 10.)
Step 2: Put your child to sleep in the same place every night.
Whether your child has a room of their own or shares a room with parents or siblings, it's important that you put your son or daughter
to sleep in the same place every night (and for naps during the day as much as possible.) Putting your child to bed in a familiar place
lets them know they are safe and that they are in a place where sleep is expected of them.
Step 3: Create a predictable bedtime routine.
Consistency and predictability are really important to babies and toddlers. When they know what to expect at bedtime, it makes it
*much* easier for them to make the transition from waking to sleeping - and that's why creating a bedtime routine is so important!
A good example of a bedtime routine might be something like this:
6:20 p.m. Bath time
6:35 p.m. Put on pyjamas
6:40 p.m. Nursing or bottle (NOTE: Do NOT let your child fall asleep while feeding!)
6:55 p.m. Story or songs
7:00 p.m. Into cot or bed
Your bedtime routine shouldn't take more than about 45 minutes, and it's VERY important that the routine is the same every single
night. The repetition and predictability are what let your child know that he or she will soon be expected to fall asleep.
Step 4: Put your baby to bed AWAKE!
If you've been rocking, nursing, or otherwise soothing your baby to sleep, this is going to seem like a tough one... but it's actually the
most important step! It's only by letting your baby fall asleep WITHOUT your help at bedtime that he or she can learn the skills
necessary to stay asleep through the night.
Step 5: If your baby wakes up during the night, wait a few minutes before intervening.
Everyone - babies and adults alike - will actually wake up several times every night. For most adults, these waking are so brief that
we don't even remember them the next morning. However, many babies will immediately start to fuss or cry when they wake up.
This is simply because they haven't learned how to fall asleep on their own. If a baby has been nursed or rocked to sleep at bedtime
since birth, it's not surprising that they wouldn't know how to fall asleep independently. The good news is that many babies can figure
out how to get back to sleep within just a few minutes of waking up in the night!
If your child continues to fuss or cry for more than a few minutes, you'll want to go in and offer some comfort, but it's important to let
your child do the work of falling back to sleep. You can speak softly to your child and do some gentle rubbing or patting, but you should
avoid picking your child up and rocking or nursing back to sleep.
So there you have it... the 5 most important things you need to know about getting your child to sleep through the night. Of course, it's
important to keep in mind that every child is a little different - there's no "magic formula" that will work 100% of the time for every baby!
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